How To Land The Second Date

Looking back on the first date, let's backstep and see if chances are good that there will be a second date with this woman you've just been out with. All things considered, it seemed to go pretty well, although it was difficult to read her emotions. A first date is when we make our first impressions, presenting ourself to the other party for assessment, deciphering their interest in us, and determining if a second date is feasible. Since I conducted myself well, maybe the possibility of having a second date with her is more realistic than I had thought.

Write down what you did on your first date, and something you liked about each event. This is an invaluable bit of information for the follow-up phone call. Recalling specific details of the date is a very subtle way of showing interest in your lady.

Secondly, do an exercise to build your confidence. Talking to yourself in the mirror, doing jumping jacks to gain adrenaline, or calling a friend to gain confidence, are all good ways to conjure up the big man on campus in you for that call. This is an important step, but don't take it too far! cockiness, is a major turn off for women!

You've recalled all the pleasantries of the first date, your confidence is high, and now it's time to make that call! Be sure to identify yourself from the beginning of the conversation, so as to avert any possible misidentification on her end. That would only serve to puncture the confidence you've just built around yourself. From the start, show interest in her and her life, her day. When you ask questions, the woman will tend to believe you are interested enough to listen to the answers she provides. Women like great listeners! Don't just listen though, she wants to know your listening, and when you ask a follow-up question to her what she says, that just might help you earn that second date.

Now for the fun part! Ask her what her plans are several days from now. Try to give enough time for her to prepare for the date. Women prefer to pick out their attire days in advance so they can make changes as they see fit. If she says she has no plans, simply ask her if she'd like to go out with you again. Don't say, \"second date\". Those words may be too official for her, and scare away. \"Going out\", is a much more casual way to ask. If she has plans, state what the purpose of the call is. Tell her that you had a lot of fun when you went out, and you're wondering if she'd like to go out with you sometime. Make sure, you ask in a very casual manner.

She said yes? Great! Well, if this isn't you, don't worry. If you're really that interested in going on a second date with that specific person, tell her that if she has some free time and would like to go out with you, that she call you. She may call back for another date when she feels like it is on her terms. She may not call at all. Don't hold your breath, or wait by the phone.

If you didn't get that call, or she wasn't very interested in going out again, go back to the drawing board. Think about the first date. Were you dressed appropriately for the occasion? Did you listen to her? Did you take interest in the things she cares about? Were you curteous? Did you Open her door? If this is you, but she still didn't want to go out. Try again with someone else. They may just not be the right person for you.

Above all, always be yourself. It gets very difficult to function by way of trying to be someone you aren't. Be spontaneous and take a chance. Remember to listen, be polite, and remain involved on your next date. Assuming that you followed all of these tips, I feel pretty certain that the second date should be in the bag.

By: Pam Baldwin

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