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The Most Important Marriage Tips Of All Marriage Tips

Recently my father-in-law spoke at a wedding I attended. After 50 years of wedded bliss he offered the couple simple marriage tips. He told them simply that one of the most important the rich tips they will ever get in life is not to be afraid to say, "I'm sorry". He claims that this one marriage and tip can bring you many happy years as a married couple.

No other phrase is powerful enough to stop a fight and spread peace and joy throughout. Your spouse was ready to serve your head on a platter only seconds before these words were uttered. Now that they are in the open you are able to relax and get to making up.

This may sound easy but for some it is difficult to apologize. Women tend to be in touch of their feelings more, and are able to apologize quite easily. Men on the other hand, tend to have issues with expressing feelings and are unable to see the importance of seeing those three words aloud.

This results in a problem. Women might think a man is not sorry just because he hasn't said so (when often this is not the case). Also, a man might misinterpret the woman's need to hear it as a lack of self-confidence and think she is dependent on him (this might also not be the case). Men should swallow their pride and say "I'm sorry" when they need to and women need to realize that a man can feel guilty about what he did to upset her, although they don't always express this feeling. Realizing this from both a male and female perspective could prevent a lot of problems in marriages.

This marriage tip, as with most all tips, is one that does no good to understand if you do not implement it.

As it is a most tips, this marriage to does no good to merely understand. It is important to also put this marriage tip into practice.

Take full responsibility for your mistakes. Don't take out your anger or embarrassment on your spouse. Instead of a half-hearted apology you need to let your spouse understand that you truly do have compassion and care about your relationship.

Don't only apologize for what happened; also apologize for how it made your partner feel. Rather than stating, "I'm sorry I'm late" you can elaborate and say, "I am sorry I made it home late. I hope I didn't worry you." To share a more of an accurate depiction of your feelings.

Be specific in your apology. An overly generalized apology can sound like a political candidate making sure that they have covered all of their bases. If there is a reason for apologizing then it should be specified in the apology.

Use proper timing. When you've done something small then an immediate it apology is appropriate. If you have done something a bit bigger and you feel that your partner's feelings may be hurt you should wait until you get a quiet moment along and then you can let her know she is the light of your life and means the world to you. Don't do this as she is leaving on her way to run errands.

You can explain what happened but try not to lay blame.

Marriage tips can be helpful but you should not expect them to work miracles. It is up to you and your spouse to work through your problems. You shouldn't expect your spouse to instantaneously accept your apology either. Forgiveness may take awhile and in the meantime that you self and your partner shoes.